Divorcing “Gay” from “Marriage”

Kirk Cameron is drawing fierce criticism for his statements concerning “Gay Marriage” during a Piers Morgan interview on CNN. He said, “Marriage was defined by God a long time ago…and it was defined in the garden between Adam and Eve.” Of course, all of the expected insults are being hurled at him for being “intolerant” and “out-of-step with the culture”.

There is much debate about it, but it’s really not a complicated issue, because the term “Gay Marriage” is an oxymoron…like trying to discuss “dry water”. To let it be framed as a right or wrong question is to agree with the premise that it’s an equal option. It’s not. Kirk was right, we don’t have the privilege to define marriage, God does. He made us “male and female” (Genesis 2:27), and He also pronounced; “a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24).

As a Christian, you may be thinking, “OK, I get that, but how do I share it and demonstrate the love of Christ too?” I’ve found it helpful to focus on the clear picture described in God’s Word, instead of what it isn’t. In other words, the main point is the beautiful picture of what it can be. God formed Eve specifically to complete Adam. A man and woman fit together in every way. Physically, emotionally, and psychologically, God designed us to compliment each other. It doesn’t take much observation to see how boys and girls are wired different. We augment each other’s weaknesses, and keep one another’s extremes in check. What an amazing process to see two lives merge together into something greater than the sum of two parts.

At the end of the day, the gift of Biblical marriage is far superior to any counterfeit models. Whether it’s same-sex arrangements or “open marriages”, the proven historical value of a traditional home trumps all others. It’s not always easy, but it’s still the best, and worth defending. Thanks Kirk for speaking the truth.

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4 Responses to Divorcing “Gay” from “Marriage”

  1. Alex Haiken says:

    Nearly every person who acknowledges an aversion to homosexuality does so on the basis of what he or she believes the Bible has to say. In their mind, there is no doubt whatsoever about what the Bible says and what the Bible means. Their general argument goes something like this: Homosexuality is an abomination and the homosexual is a sinner. Homosexuality is condemned in both the Old and New Testaments. Therefore, if we are to be faithful to the clear teachings of Scripture we too must condemn homosexuality. Needless to say, this premise is being widely debated among evangelicals today and seriously challenged by biblical scholars, theologians and religious leaders everywhere.

    It rarely occurs to any of us that our reading of Scripture is profoundly colored by our own cultural context and worldview. In light of your posting and since I happen to speak and write on this very topic, I thought you might find some of these posts of particular interest. I would particularly recommend to you the following: “Romans 1: What Was Paul Ranting About?”, “Romans 2: Paul’s Bait and Switch” and “Why No One in the Biblical World Had a Word for Homosexuality.” You can find links to these and others on the “Archives” page (link below).

    -Alex Haiken


  2. Alex,
    Thanks for your comment. I’m sure your words reflect a genuine heart felt opinion, but I couldn’t disagree more. There are places in scripture open for debate, however sexual orientation is not one of them. From the pre-flood era in Genesis to the New Testament, homosexual behavior is condemned. When you mentioned reading of scripture being colored by our culture, I’ve found that it causes us to take God less seriously, not more (for example, the Hebrews in the OT). Consider Satan’s method when he approached Eve. He begins with, “Has God indeed said…” planting doubt concerning God’s instructions. I submit that he still uses the same method today through various channels and unfortunately many are still prone to fall for it. Thankfully, when we trust Jesus with our life, He not only changes us inside, but the Holy Spirit guides us into all truth (John 16:13).


  3. Joey Brewer says:

    Thanks for the reminder that our country and its laws are based on Gods word and not majority thought, feeling, or opinion. Jesus says that the broad gate leads to destruction and many will enter but the narrow gate leads to life and only a few will find it. Our leaders and law makers must honor the word of God above majority opinion or it will lead to destruction.



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